Black Shoes
The problem began, and ended as well, since it was never really a
problem, at least not a serious one, in the living room, so named I
suppose for tradition, since certainly no more living was done there
than in any other room to justify this name, as the afternoon sun
bounced off the bare white drywall, although perhaps only as while as
can be imagined around children where white is an ideal but seldom is
seen and when seen not for very long. Jon, at least Jon now, it was
Jonathan then, and still is to family and a few others, sat in the
Brown Chair, its springs sagging and the leather cracked and torn but
still the throne of the living room to those who knew and were small
enough to sit sideways across the arms whether their mother approved
or not, and she eventually learned to accept it at least, and maybe
thought that such passive destruction of an old chair was better than
active destruction of any chair and kids will be kids, nothing can be
done or should be done about that, best to let it be. He sat, or lay,
in the chair, the television on but hardly acknowledged, his thoughts
rather on his new shoes, black Nikes, shoes being more important or
more interesting to a thirteen year old in 1991 perhaps than whatever
might be on the tv. The black shoes however unimportant they may have
seemed or maybe should have been were nevertheless necessary for the
problem, if it can be called that, or occurrence, if it can not,
because occurrence was what it was because no one lost or gained or
fought or needed to but still it was noteworthy enough to be
remembered six years later, strange that something which neither
helped nor harmed could stay in the memory of a thirteen year old boy
with so much else on his mind, inconsequential as such things may be
to someone older, more experienced, perhaps too experienced to
remember what it was like to be thirteen, never too experienced to
forget being thirteen but experienced, old enough to forget that what
was being remembered was being thirteen and not something else.
Jonathan's father--wearing the same emotionless expression as always
that fooled so many into believing that the emotions were not there
when in fact they were simply not visible to someone who did not know
him well, as perhaps his son did, or perhaps not as such a young age
when maybe it is not so important to know one's parents at a personal
level but when it is necessary to know them as teachers and
protectors and leave it at that--spoke words remembered still,
although the reason is not so clear.
The reason for the words, "When I was your age only street hoods wore
black shoes," was not a mystery, only that the words are still
important is cause for thought, of course it was true that only
street hoods wore black shoes then but now thirteen year olds trying
to be cool perhaps on the same principle of rebellion that was
motivation then or perhaps fashion or perhaps both because at that
age the difference is not clear or not there and is not necessary
because both bring about the same end but black shoes made a street
hood then but only a boy now, even a boy trying to be a man and maybe
glad that his father disapproved, knowing his father was not at fault
for how he grew up, nor Jon's grandparents for helping him grow up
that way and certainly not society as a whole for producing street
hoods to wear black shoes and if no one is at fault then everyone is
at fault, Jonathan included, and therefore no one can be blamed,
really, in all fairness, because there is no significant different
between everyone at fault and no one at fault.
Now knowing why the words were said it is left to wonder what
significant they have, what power they hold to be remembered so long.
Six year later as Jonathan (Jon now) sits at his computer, peers out
into the evening, the streetlights orange glow over Pennsylvania
Avenue, the cars going by, louder here than outside through some echo
or perhaps merely imagination, but still more cars than one would
expect, or maybe not, today, 1997, even Westminster has traffic, only
the street and a few buildings here and there visible through the
window have any light, mostly it is dark, the open fields and hills,
less now than perhaps when his father was thirteen, but this is
progress, or at least transition, change, progress implies positive
change, and more buildings, more roads, more noise, positive may be
too strong a word, they say the child is better off than the parents
was at that age but at what cost, what has been lost forever, what if
still only street hoods wore black shoes and thirteen year old boys
did not? Jonathan did not live then, he can not know what it was like
firsthand, naturally he would find it ridiculous not to wear black
shoes because it was not done then, now it is now, today, anyone can
wear black shoes, but black shoes are not what is important but
rather the change is important, now is not then, nor is it like then
but somehow better than then or not as good depending on who you are
or who you would like to be or what you know or can find out from
someone who does know, who lived then, remembers then, but maybe only
through the eyes of another, a different point of view that has been
borrowed, stolen, as one's own, but can never be as good, as true, as
real as one's own.
And so what belief led to the statement from Jonathan's father? It of
course was not malicious, being a good father he would never make
such a statement maliciously, therefore another reason must exist, it
was his father's view, perhaps, but still something is lacking, as
Jonathan's father is not oblivious to the changes, good or bad, since
his childhood, nor is he nasty or stupid, and even the comment did
now have the bit that many comments from father to son can and do and
should have, in the right circumstances, but here is not such a
circumstance, not requiring or receiving such a sharp edge. If not
malice then perhaps as a lesson, father teaching son, but what in
that lesson can possess such longevity, such a seemingly
insignificant exchange, yet carried over six year and beyond, and
still such that, while those same black shoes still sit under the
bed, well-worn, dusty, past their prime yet not banished to the
garbage, not worm, except on occasions, few and far between, replaced
by white Nikes, or brown leather boots, or which his father would
certainly, and does, approve. Something in that lesson, or in that
and other such lessons delivered over years, something made an
impression, such an impression that six years later it is stronger
than it was before, and it is impressions like this that sons need
from fathers in order to carry on some of the past into the future,
not all of it but some of it to bridge the gap between then and
now.
The memory of this long-ago incident is a subtle thank you from son
to father for sharing experience, a sense of the way things should
be, a symbol of the fatherly concern felt but maybe not shown so much
on the surface but nevertheless prominently there, even of the sense
of how things should be is a sense of how things should have been
more than should be and still the past is relevant to today but maybe
you have to look deeper than "only street hoods wore black shoes" and
find what it really means or maybe come to the conclusion that it
never meant anything at all.
Jonathan Renaut
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